Being religious!

heyy bloggy

this sunday when i went home i met a family friend of mine...amidst our conversation in car we had to stop due to some religious procession going on ....and then she asked me" what do u mean by being religious?"..i actually blinked for some two seconds and then replied " being religious means being good"... she then counter questioned me "how do you define being good?"..and i felt only one line coming to my mind...being religious is being good...being good to everyone around you....thats the only definition of religion my parents have taught me...for me visiting the temple daily ..chanting mantras daily is no sign of being religious....they are after all mere activities..so why not indulge in activities like doing one good deed in your life..making one sad person smile everyday...i guess god appreciates when we take care of his other creations too...

recently i have had a chance of knowing about people who have no scruples about drinking alcohol but yes to purify their souls they have no qualms fasting for fourteen days too..i mean such kind of religiousness is beyond my understanding...

i have never been told that my religion forbids drinking alcohol or eating non vegetarian foods...but yes my family follows them for physical as well as mental health...we are not bound to follow these rules but we choose to follow them...and that is the way i shall be bringing up my kids..

when my mother fasts for nine days in navratri as most Hindu women do, at the end of those days she breaks her fast with a silent prayer without any pomp or show to the world that she has endured hunger and thirst for nine days.. and that i think is fasting in the true sense..it is after all her choice of being religious...

these days i feel more close to god as i feel i am closer to my inner self...my own self where i have made some wrong choices some wrong decisions some hurt ful statements some hurtful actions...and i have cried at times to no one but only my ownself...and that crying has only strengthened my belief that no one but you are the master of your ownself and destiny...

being religious to me today is to be at peace first with your ownself...your own strengths and weaknesses....your own actions ..and even teh actions of others which affect you...the trick is to be able to forgive everyone for everything...let bygones be bygones...

and this positvity has helped me realise that the life i am living right now is the one i always wanted...being independent..on my own feet...being close to mom dad...and finally being the daughter they always wanted me to be,,,..finally understanding their anxiety to see me settled and after hibernating for 25 years i have finally started seeing the profiles they show me...and i was pleasantly surprised to see they have a better choice than me !!!!ha ha ...

we just waste the best time of our life looking out for love outside our family and friends ..and finally end up getting our hearts broken by giving it to the wrong person....the love we look for is in our own hands...with people close to us who love us without conditions in all ways and always...

i guess being in love with your self, your family and friends is also equivalent to being religious...!!!