I tried to let this go, but
honestly the insane number of rebuttal letters to Ms. Mira Rajput and the whole
hoopla surrounding her comments has forced me to sit and think about this
entire episode. I say “think” because the way people blurt out on paper these
days makes me feel that the “thinking” aspect is somewhere lost in the entire
process.
Please stop reading if you belong
to the sect of people who do not have the patience to read something fully and
think for ten minutes before commenting.
For starters, I believe that the
word “Feminism” is now the most abused word after the word “love”. So callous,
so common and so misunderstood is this word. Everyone wants to wave the flag of
feminism without even understanding the “F” of it. Feminism is not synonymous to
demeaning men. Feminism is not about shedding your clothes in the name of your
choice, feminism is not being brazen about anything and everything. Feminism is
a powerful word meant to empower women and not shame men. We have become so impatient that we just feel good about justifying everything under the umbrella of feminism. Stop abusing Feminism!
I have taken the time out to read
what Ms. Rajput said, so nothing that I write is based on my whimsical theories
alone. Yes, a lot of us have only read the rebuttal letters, without even going
through what happened. She tried to bring to limelight home makers who do not
work outside of their home. In the process of raising the pedestal of
homemakers she ended up degrading a big majority of us who work and manage home
both. I have always been a working woman, my mother works too and I do not plan
to quit working after I have a baby. I have my reasons, my situations and my
priorities to do so and Ms. Rajput has hers. She has never been my role model. I
did not know who she was until she married Shahid Kapoor. So for me, a woman whose only
identity has been her star husband, does not have the power to influence me or
my lifestyle in any whichever way! She is just not that important or powerful.
We have to understand this before making a hero or a villain out of anybody
these days.
She said something. We did not
like it. Fine. A few days back, Tanmay Bhatt made a video that did not go down
well with people because apparently he mocked our big idols. What is up with the
intolerance and importance given to things that would not matter! Why do we
give these kind of people the privilege to dictate anything? She comes from a
different background; her choices are drawn out of that and she nowhere asks us
to do what she does, or whatever!
Why do we need validation from people who have no idea
what the real world looks like!? I frankly care two hoots for what Ms. Rajput
and her likes have to say. She is not that important and she will never be my
ideal.
I would have taken it to heart
had someone like Ms. Kiran Bedi had made this statement, or for that matter Ms.
Sushma Swaraj had made this statement. Because these are the women I admire and
would like to learn from.
It’s time we get our priorities straight, what to give
importance to and what to ignore. Working women or home makers we do not need
any validation from ANYONE.
A woman has the freedom to decide her life based on her
own situation and priorities. Degrading either sector of women just because you
fall into the other is plain stupid and nothing else.
Let us stop the stupidity by
ending discussions about people who do not matter!
Love,
Divya
PS: I am a firm believer of "No uterus, no opinion" metaphorically, so if you are not a home maker, not a working woman, not someone associated with any of these things then please don't spoil your day by irking me.
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