It has been many times that I have written about crimes against women and each time I write it has less to do with my brain and more to do with my heart. I never based something like rape on facts but the documentary on Nirbhaya rape case did manage to set my brain thinking .
Why does the rapist in prison not have even one percent guilt on his face when he mentions what all they did to that girl?
Why do all of their families look alike? All from below poverty line, people who struggle to have two meals a day?
Why do the lawyers talk insensitively about women ? Why do they dictate mandates to women instead of warning the perpetrators of crime?
Why are there only questions and no answers ?
First and foremost Indian culture cannot be blamed for any of these things. People who do so know nothing about Indian culture.
Indian culture is based on " Yatr naryastu pujyante ramante tatra devta" meaning where women are respected, the Gods rejoice there. A culture built on this foundation cannot be anti women. A culture that boasts of educated women like Gargi and Ahilya who were as educated as their male counterparts cannot be regressive. No I simply do not accept the way people just take a dig at my country's culture and get away with it. No my country and its culture are not regressive.
The deterioration of the mental attitude of Indian society is based on many factors. Each time we watch and appreciate a film like Ranjhana, we are anti women and anti any rights that a girl carries to reject a guy. We sympathise with the hero who lusts after her and chases her till he dies. Yes we adore him , so do allteh pan wallahs, all the rickshawallahs all the bus drivers. What we dismiss as a masala entertainer is serious idealism for these people who have nothing going right in life for them. There is a strata of male, the poor uneducated and opressed ones. They are frustrated from every angle. More mouths to feed, more to earn but no way to do so . All the accused in Nirbhaya's case were from same uneducated poor families. I am not blaming every poor person but I am just trying to understand what goes behind their minds. Because as we can see remorse and guilt is not what the rapists in this case felt.
It was not just a rape, it was their assertion of power. Yes, that is the way they operate. I am no psychologist to write and debate on such sensitive matters but yes I am a woman and I know what it feels like to be victimized and penalized for no fault.
We need to work at the root of all this , may be we cannot eradicate all of it , but wherever possible when you come across kids begging on streets or working in tea shops, please take a moment to talk and know about them . Whenever possible contribute to schools that are run for these helpless kids. We need to cure this anger that may just grow with their age and then come out like a volcano.
Sympathizing with needy kids is always easy and the best thing to do. This is the way we can cure our society from this leprosy of insensitivity.
Otherwise we can only caution and warn our women and just pray that th women we care about don"t get raped and killed.
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