hellow bloggy!!
life in these times has become so complicated tht even though i hav made it a point to write only positivities in my blog i hav to point out the cons of being born in this generation...
our parents were born and brought up with limited choices ,,,limited means and limited options...but we hav been served with so many options on our platter tht we hav the option to remain confused!!!
our fathers never had the luxury to think abt doing a job or becoming an entrepreneur..but we haV the time and resources to decide wat to do and wat not to do...we can shock them with our decisions to become a DJ or an RJ!!!
our mothers were brought up with education only to b able to teach their kids....but we..the girls of today hav been educated as much as our male counterparts..nd hav an option of becoming the bread winner in our homes...leading to another complicated ego clashes...as men will always be men...and its not just abt male egos...its abt our own recognition of our potentials tht makes us very prone to ego attacks...
coed education was never given much impetus earlier...leading to arranged marriages as the only recourse to be taken...but wen we hav frnds of both genders and an option to know the other person well before choosing him/her to marry we get another complication of parents not agreeing to intercaste marriages....
as Chetan bhagat says in Two states ..why dont parents understand intercaste marriages as an opportunity to love some more ppl....???...
with the rising prices..the need for both spouses earning has also risen..leading to more complications as to who will relocate his/her job for the other one...
life in these times has become so complicated tht even though i hav made it a point to write only positivities in my blog i hav to point out the cons of being born in this generation...
our parents were born and brought up with limited choices ,,,limited means and limited options...but we hav been served with so many options on our platter tht we hav the option to remain confused!!!
our fathers never had the luxury to think abt doing a job or becoming an entrepreneur..but we haV the time and resources to decide wat to do and wat not to do...we can shock them with our decisions to become a DJ or an RJ!!!
our mothers were brought up with education only to b able to teach their kids....but we..the girls of today hav been educated as much as our male counterparts..nd hav an option of becoming the bread winner in our homes...leading to another complicated ego clashes...as men will always be men...and its not just abt male egos...its abt our own recognition of our potentials tht makes us very prone to ego attacks...
coed education was never given much impetus earlier...leading to arranged marriages as the only recourse to be taken...but wen we hav frnds of both genders and an option to know the other person well before choosing him/her to marry we get another complication of parents not agreeing to intercaste marriages....
as Chetan bhagat says in Two states ..why dont parents understand intercaste marriages as an opportunity to love some more ppl....???...
with the rising prices..the need for both spouses earning has also risen..leading to more complications as to who will relocate his/her job for the other one...
so we just live in a world of complications....yet all izz well..as they say..life is not a bed of roses...u winsome u lose some...and at the end life is about living and not complaining!!!
PS:
just wondering wat my kids will b like as they are again gonna b the Gen Next...!!!
Nice article,
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with whatever you have mentioned. But beg to differ on 1 opinion - arranged marriages. I have seen so many cases where love marriages fail. Reason is pretty simple - we act differently in different situations. Its not a certainty that best friend will prove out to be a good husband. It all changes after marriage and only thing you are left with is - GRUDGE!
Statements like "You have changed after marriage" becomes part of regular life and this happens because of EXPECTATIONS.
I personally feel marriage is a gamble anyway. No matter its an arranged one. There are obviously lots and lots of positives in arranged marriages - Family support, respect, care, marriage counseling from both sides etc.
You can definitely know more about the person even in arranged marriage. Rest it all depends on only 1 thing - SACRIFICE little things for each other. Rest of the things can take care of itself. You always get back what you give.
As far as i know your family, they are really really wonderful. So down to earth and so benign.
Would love to read more from you in near future. Keep writing.
Regards,
Manish.
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http://tabernacle-of-serenity.blogspot.com/
Hey Kaavya,
ReplyDeleteGood Insights ,
a. Choice of profession :
Apart from the choices education was at a premium then, and yeh as you said..limited choices..apart from family obligations, ..!
How many engineers or Science, MBA students we had during those times ... today we find them in abundance...leave alone students we even didn't even have the necessary infrastructure ( Colleges) & importance or consideration given to education then...!
On the flip side, as you have rightly pointed it has left our generation CONFUSED and if not blinded with the so called materialistic race with their peers.
b. Women on the rise :
Inflation , same education,self confident,same opportunities,I agree with them all !
Apologies for writing a long comment...!
Good article !
Keep writing .
thank u for givin ur time to write a comment tht has added to the value of my article...m glad my points hav been correctly understood nd the essence of wat i wrote conveyed...
ReplyDeleteShall keep writin
kaavya
@tabernacle of serenity...
ReplyDeleteThanks for ur comment..
Wud just like to say tht my intent in this write up was only to bring forth the changes tht hav arisen in todays world...
Theres no comparison or sides taken by me for love or arranged marriage as both hav their own pros n cons..
Kaavya